Need some people to talk to.

[neon98ACR]

I'm gonna copy and paste this.

Started like this:

I'm 19 first off.

I've never had a gf or feelings for a girl until Ocotober when a girl named Ashley came to me by my friend. I fell in love but it took till Feb. to get her to date me.

Mostly due to me leaving for boot camp, and her dating and internat douche from Las Vegas.

Well my friend started by dating her best friend and then they hooked us up. I have loved this girl more than I love my own car and that's a lot because I cry when anytihng happens to my cars.

Well, long story short her best friend cheated on my best friend with a 27 y.o. guy. she's 17 as well as Ashley. Well the other night she was supposed to come over and we were supposed to hang before she had to work basically all next week and do volleyball after work. well she changed all my plans and started lying to me and going behind my back. All this started after she hung out and talked with her "friend" Kimber who cheated on my friend.


Now out of nowhere she plays mind games with me and calls it off saying she "needs to do me". It kills me because I've never felt the way I have before and I was there for everything, I met her father (no other bf's have) her family, I took her to D.E. to spend a week with her uncle she hasn't seen in years. I did what I could to show her I loved her and we both agreed to never having anything come between us and have what we have go.

Well last night she did it without a problem. I'm beyond heart broken. I have no money, I have no job, I have no parents.

Long story short:
I did my work at my last job but I over exceeded my self and made other look bad so there banded against me.
My "parents" always fight and argue with me and so i moved out and they held my stuff hostage and so I took it, now there pressing charges against me and want me to pay $1311.35 to them.
I have been to over 11 differnt companies for jobs and got nowhere. I should be starting a new job soon because of my friend tho.
While backing my truck off a trailer, because it's so low it caught on the ramp and ripped the gas tank a new one.
I don't have any money to pay my car insurance, nor put gas in my car to get to my hopeful new job.

She knew what she meant to me and that she was what was helping me threw all this just as I had done for her before. I don't know what to do, I have no money to even go to a strip club or a club in general....


Then I just found out the bottom part like 30 min. ago:

So, my friend has is "ex"-gf started talking because she realized she f'ed up. Well I was told by him from Kimber that she did it because of how I acted because I was upset she was lying to me and changing our plans. Well I let it go and havent talked to her i sent her a txt and she said she can't talk about it because she's busy with work andand volleball practice and other things... mostly true but she has off one day....

Well I found out from a worker of hers she having getting close to a guy i went to school with (grade below me) I know the kid and he lies and cheats to girls and makes them feel good and he hates me so I knew he was gonna do this when she told me he started working there and I told her he was bad news.

Well I wouldn't hurt me if it wasn't for the fact I can't stop thinking about her and I'm not the kind of guy to easily find a gf... It took 19 years to finally get one. I know most of you are going to tell me to move and I can but I need another girl...

For the most part im better with my life now that I don't have to worry about having felony charges from my "parents". I should be starting my new job here soon. So I'm better with my life but I need a girl to spend it with, I despise lonelyness I hate it. I can get over it I mean it's my first girlfriend, first kiss, first lay. and I was her first serious, first lay... I just need another girl to make memories with and stuff hers so far in the back that they go out my ears.


I just have no one to talk ot after finding that out.. My best friend is sleeping. and I have no one else..

[TROLL]

Yo dude... all I can say is that feelings can be really intense sometimes, but know for sure that you just have to stick it out and if you just give it some time it will get better. Soon enough you'll be totally over it but don't force it by trying to get a new girl in your life or pretend like you don't care if you do. Also on the flip side, don't convince yourself that this girl was the one when she wasn't... there's obviously someone better out there for you and it will all happen in time. What she's doing now and who she's talking to really doesn't matter... she's not the one for you so there's no reason to sweat it.

As for the job situation, I'm not sure whats going on there but its not normal to go through that many jobs. If you have any friends or family members or even former employers who can give you some real honest feedback and not sugarcoat it maybe you can figure out what you're doing wrong there. Thats definitely something you're going to want to turn around so you can hold onto a job, get some financial stability, and take some of your other stresses away.

Good luck, and again just know that it'll take some time so don't try to rush or force it. Do things you enjoy doing, don't focus on negative stuff.

[HatchSurfer3]

I agree with everything troll said. A big piece of advice is that you will need to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. Take your time And dont rush into something with another girl just to try and forget about this one. That won't be fair to you or the new girl. Just take this time to work on yourself, ya know finding a job, and getting everything stabalized. With that, you'll become happier as a person And then be able to share that happiness with someone else.

[Ej6Mike]

If theres one thing ive learned from all my experiences in life as far as love goes.... Its that Being happy with yourself, and being confident of who you are and what you do making you happy WILL ATTRACT a good person (or people) into your life.

Start your new job and get your self situated with a new life. Forget this dilema and leave the past behind you. Best thing you can do is move on, and become happy in your own self. You dont need someone in your life with drama attached to them, dragging them down. Trust me when i say that just about everyone gets into a situation with some REALLY messed up person in a messed up situation, so you can forgive yourself for this one because we all make that mistake at one point or another.

[neon98ACR]

All of you have helped me a great deal. I should know better that feeling good about myself finds a right girl, that's how i found her in the first place and I should know that if she can't stick through a rough patch like this they she isn't a keeper...

[cmr076]

Originally Posted by neon98ACR

All of you have helped me a great deal. I should know better that feeling good about myself finds a right girl, that's how i found her in the first place and I should know that if she can't stick through a rough patch like this they she isn't a keeper...

pretty much. Me and my girlfriend of 4.5 years broke up a week ago and it sucks. Planned on getting married, blah blah blah. Basically what it comes down to (and i know this sounds gay) is that if its meant to be, it will be. The worst thing you can do (and this may cross the line of mind games) is sound/appear desperate. Dont call her every 10 minutes, dont text her. As ****ty as it sounds, the one in control of relationships is the one who cares less generally.

It also sounds like you have enough **** going on that your last concern should be a girlfirend. Get your car fixed, get a job, get your life together. There are a LOT of women out there. While right now it may seem like this one was the ONLY ONE, i promise you that is not the case. Girls are stupid and manipulative. If she cant stick with you through the hard times why should she deserve to be with you through the good times.

Get your **** together and the women will come. Maybe even one of her friends . Good luck with everything and just remember that at some point **** cant get any worse and your luck will change, the cards will start falling into place and things will start to get better, you just have to endure (and if your ex. military [or did you not make it through boot camp?], you should be able to endure) Either way, hang in there, keep your head down, work your ass off at whatever it is you do and good things will start to happen.

[Brendan]

True happiness comes from within, not another person.

As for jobs, yes, as everyone else said -- it is typical to run through a lot of jobs. I've had 6 in the past 2 years while I was @ school in Florida, mainly because my time and effort that I put out were nowhere close to the pay I was getting, especially having to balance 5 classes and ridiculous hours, but I got my internship @ our Insurance Company and moved/transferred back up to PA, so I'm happy again.

You just have to be patient and understand that you gotta put up with the ****ty, low result things to get back to where you want to full capacity. I've been down a very dark, grim road with my family and siblings -- didn't even speak to them and avoided the problem -- but I ended up manning up and taking responsibility for my actions. (No, I wasn't a drug addict or selling my butt hole for $$.)

As for the low car and scraping it off the trailer and what not -- I would sell it if I was in that position and get whatever I can for it, then buy a beater and just save from there on.


I was surprised and happy to see the forums are pretty supportive and nobody just RAAAAGED and flamed you -- so I guess if you ever need to vent and get some **** off your ass, just wipe your taint on a thread and people will chime in and give whatever support they can!

[AWD GS]

on a serious note though, you need to forget about her. people like that are not worth the time and end up dating scumbags who treat them like crap. it may not be easy to just forget and move on but honestly its the smartest move. you sound way better than her and at some point she'll realize. it may not be tomorrow or next week but eventually it will hit her after shes had enough with douchebags. find a hobby and keep yourself busy. sitting around thinking about it only makes it worse so stay busy.

[420sx]

Originally Posted by Brendan

True happiness comes from within, not another person.

Truer words have never been spoken. You need to learn to seek happiness by yourself before youre ready to embrace another person to be happy with. If you arent happy, a girl isnt going to make you happy. You need to be content with your life and your goals, or your negativity and stress will compromise any relationship.

While it may seem like another girl is the only thing that will make you happy right now (and trust me, youre not the only one thats felt that way), you have to remind yourself that only you can make yourself happy. Its time to focus on the things in your life that matter. Get a job, fix your car, and do things that you enjoy doing. When you're truly happy, it will be evident to the girls around you. Focus on the parts of your life that need improvement, OTHER than the girl situation. Take care of yourself, get your **** together, and the girls will follow.

[Spocknasty]

Originally Posted by neon98ACR

I'm gonna copy and paste this.

but it took till Feb. to get her to date me.

Mostly due to me leaving for boot camp, and her dating and internat douche from Las Vegas.

because I cry when anytihng happens to my cars.

well she changed all my plans and started lying to me and going behind my back.

Now out of nowhere she plays mind games with me and calls it off saying she "needs to do me".

I have no money, I have no job, I have no parents.


My "parents" ...

I don't know what to do, I have no money to even go to a strip club or a club in general....

You trolling?

[jen.]

Originally Posted by neon98ACR

I'm 19 first off.

I fell in love but it took till Feb. to get her to date me.

I have no money, I have no job, I have no parents.

I have no money to even go to a strip club or a club in general....

Please don't take anything I say offensively, but it sounds like you really need to work on yourself. First of all, you're young and you have plenty of good things ahead of you in life so slow down for a few moments and remember that. If you have to spend months trying to "get" a certain girl to date you, then she may not be the one for you in the first place. Also, if you really are as broke as you say, I feel like your priorities may be a little askew if you're concerned with not having money to go to stip clubs/clubs rather than shelter/food.

My best advice to you is get a stable, steady job (and find out why all your other ones haven't worked out because chances are, even if you don't realize it, it's something on your end if you're going through jobs constantly.) Be able to support yourself and either reconcile with your folks, or sort through the drama.

Either way, it doesn't seem like now is an appropriate or good time in your life to be jumping into some super serious relationship. Just take it easy, do some things for you, and have some fun. Start working out important things in your life though (ie. family, job, etc.) because it sounds to me like you've got a lot on your plate that you should focus on before worrying about starting a relationship with someone.

[neon98ACR]

Again every ones comments have helped. First, idk wtf trolling is but I'm gonna say no. Second I have a reliable car, my Neon. The truck is my toy.

As I was saying on another car forum (starquestclub). I'm kinda already starting to feel better about myself and how I used to be before I dated her. Before I would have told her goodluck dating people she's never met and listening to the lies. Or dating jerks or won't treat her right, and that's how I feel about now. More like whatever I don't care anymore. Especially since she didn't want to talk about anything in person, she's avoiding me. But like I said whatever, I want the 4 stuffed animal back that I got her so I can hang the from the back of my neon.... haha

I never made it through boot camp do to back problems

[Bates]

Women suck. Just broke up with my whiny g/f 2 days ago, and now she is all sad and begging for me to take her back. It's so much better when you have all the power.

I have been through it all with women and it never gets easier. Take it with a grain of salt and just get over it, otherwise you are going to let it fester into something horrid.

[AWD GS]

Originally Posted by neon98ACR

But like I said whatever, I want the 4 stuffed animal back that I got her

that should be the least of your worries right now

[jpalamar]

Originally Posted by AWD GS

that should be the least of your worries right now

I dunno. I think brain damage is something I would worry about


Also, if you have nudes... post them in the garbage bin.

[nissamax]

By not having parents I believe he means that they don't support him and they are not there for him

Listen to GS. Move in find a new girl not worth it

[neon98ACR]

I am moving on as best as i can, I feel much better about everything and I'm taking what someone said on StarQuest club to heart. "stop looking for the right person and go out and BE the right person."

I am completely amazed that I had so many people willing to lend there advice to help someone help, That makes this forum so much better than other that the people are willing to help a fellow member through a rough patch.

[AWD GS]

your young, this is still all new probably. wait til you go through this a few more times and mature, then you'll look back at this situation and just laugh. dont worry about anyone else but yourself.

[420sx]

"You must be the change you want to see in the world."
- Gandhi

People suck. They always have and they always will. Accept it, deal with it, and learn from it. The only thing you can do is do you.

[01 Trans-Am WS6]

Dude shes not worth it, and thats alot comming from someone in a very sticky situation with his own girl.

If the girl cheated, leave her and DON'T LOOK BACK. If your "friend" was the one she cheated on you with, dead him too. If she does it once, she'll do it twice, and again, and again. It only shows what type of girl she is and im sorry to say but it seems and easy & sleezy one to me. I understand you do have feelings for the girl, but time will heal all wounds and just believe that there are bigger better plans for you out there, you will meet a nice, new, respectable girl.

Bottom line is, you want someone to love you for you. Love you for who you are. Not what you have to offer them, not the things you have, they need to love you for you. PERIOD. Just keep your head up, and go strong, dont live in regret. Have some confidence, if you see an attractive girl somewhere don't over do it, but don't be afraid to approach them. Girls always want the guy to make the first move for the most part, and if they are not interested whats the worst that will happen? They turn you down and reject you?? OHH THE HORROR!! Just think of it this way, noone is perfect and that includes the most beautiful woman on this planet, noone is perfect so if some stuck up bitch turns you down...its because she is a fake stuck up bitch. You want a real, true, down to earth chick. Again, loves you for you.