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jc8889 · 03-12-2007, 12:12 PM

Dude my girls 12 and Im 25, I run ****.

drew · 03-12-2007, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Broken5hift

maybe your problem is that your telling us and not her whats pissing you off.

please don't make assumptions. we talk about it all the time, it's just that she doesn't seem to understand how i feel ( although she says she does, we have the same arguments over stuff over and over ) i was just sitting back thinking about it and really thought, is it me or her?

Broken5hift · 03-12-2007, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by drew

please don't make assumptions. we talk about it all the time, it's just that she doesn't seem to understand how i feel ( although she says she does, we have the same arguments over stuff over and over ) i was just sitting back thinking about it and really thought, is it me or her?

well thats what i mean, im sure she is thinking the same thing you are (that you dont understand her view). relationships are nothing but a work in progress. Im just trying to say, if your having an issue its cool to ask people on the forum, just dont base your decision off it or anything. everyone is different in the way they handle things and no one knows your situation as well as you do. I see alot how people post their issues with significant others online and next thing you know they are taking advice from the playa wanna be saying "oh **** that **** i wouldnt let a girl do that". but the truth is that guys the one who is either gonna end up being single for the rest of his life or in some ****ty ass relationship.

If you question is, is it you or her, it both of you, and not us. thats all

good luck though, hope everything gets sorted

DropTopChevy · 03-12-2007, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by IntegrasAreBest

thats how my last girlfriend was. she's 19. im 21. i said to hell with this and called it quits.

I agree with this guy. My last gf was 2 years younger than me and she always wanted me to call her and I got rid of her after i could take all of the bullS%^&
Dump tha B$%^&

Snoozie · 03-12-2007, 04:05 PM

God forbid you guys should talk to your girlfriends once and a while.

Broken5hift · 03-12-2007, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by BluMeanie

God forbid you guys should talk to your girlfriends once and a while.

if you cant do that ^^^ DONT get married.

On Sale · 03-12-2007, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by DropTopChevy

I'm with this guy. My last gf was 2 years younger than me and she always wanted me to call her and I got rid of her after i could take all of the bullS%^&
Dump tha B$%^&

wut? your gay? .... i woulda never guessed.

Snoozie · 03-12-2007, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by On Sale

wut? your gay? .... i woulda never guessed.

I would have.

grimm · 03-12-2007, 04:40 PM

After reading thru some of the posts and your replies it really seems like you already know what you are going to do. So just do it aleady.

Snoozie · 03-12-2007, 04:44 PM

Wait Drew, doesnt she have an account on here? Does she ever come on?

drew · 03-12-2007, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by grimm

After reading thru some of the posts and your replies it really seems like you already know what you are going to do. So just do it aleady.

what ? hah i'm not going to do anything, i wasn't looking for relationship advice here i just really wanted to know if you guys thought it was just me being selfish. it's hard to recognize negative things about yourself

we have our different views on some things, wich is normal. i feel a lot better after reading most of the replys here. i understand a little better now that it is probably a little bit of many factors, age, trust, and insecurity. those are all things that will change with time, i'm very happy in my relationship and love my girl

we talked a lot last night. i think we're both going to try to be a little more understanding, she isn't going to bug me at work ( an issue that has gotten me in trouble on more than 1 occasion ) and i will communicate with her better. i brought a lot of the trust problems on myself and that's something we will both work on

thanks everyone for your replys, all is good now.

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Originally Posted by BluMeanie

Wait Drew, doesnt she have an account on here? Does she ever come on?

she doesn't come on here, she just registered to see what the site was all about and why i was on it i guess ?

either way, if she saw the thread she would probably get a little upset i was talking about our problems to people she doesn't know, but i havn't said anything dishonest or tried to make her look bad. i kind of wish she could read some of the replys, just to know some of our little disagrements seem common

DropTopChevy · 03-12-2007, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by On Sale

wut? your gay? .... i woulda never guessed.

You are too cool for me man. I sure wish I could act like i was in high school oh wait i still do

Drftpretty · 03-12-2007, 06:17 PM

Relax, she's just trying to get you to come and pick her up from High school.

She wants to show off your hot SCed Tib to all her teenie booper friends.

Whats wrong with that?

Pics or Ban.

drew · 03-12-2007, 06:19 PM

lol i used to feel like a pedo when i picked her up from school, she goes to st joes now so it's not nearly as bad haha

Drftpretty · 03-12-2007, 07:44 PM

Dorm party! I bet my GF can kick your GF's ass!

SexyDSM95 · 03-12-2007, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by BluMeanie

God forbid you guys should talk to your girlfriends once and a while.

Who calls? I get texts/emails I don't have time for calls.

alachua · 03-13-2007, 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by drew

i've been asking myself that a lot lately. my girlfriend is driving me up the ****ing wall, i cannot stand it sometimes. is it wrong of me to not feel obligated to call her in the morning before i go to work just to check on? i hate waking her up to tell her i'm leaving, it seems selfish and i know i get annoyed when she does it to me. same issue when i get home from work, she expects a phone call ? i hate work and when i get home i want to relax for a bit or take a shower. i don't expect her to call me after class, what gives her the right to get all pissy if i don't call her?

ABORT ABORT ABORT

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Originally Posted by drew

i think some of the games she plays are childish, then again she's 18 and i'm 22, that's probably the main problem

i just wish i could have some space when i'm busy and doing **** like working 6 days straight at different hospitals, it really gets on my nerves that i feel like i have to check in or call her "just to talk" i dont know if it's a guy thing or just me, but i hate sitting around talking on the phone. i want my space sometimes, it makes me apreciate our time together more but she doesn't seem to understand that.

whatever, i'm going to watch some tv

/rant

Alright, here is the deal. This will be the last 18 year old you sleep with. At least, it probably should be. She is insecure, as Sandra said. If you can deal with it, then thats fine, but honestly it may be time to move on to a woman more your age. How does the GF feel when you go to a bar with your friends? Why does she want to know when you go to work? She is most likely only going to get clingier, and more jealous as you are with her longer. If its really worth it, then deal with these issues, but maybe its time you pick up a woman that you can do body shots off of at the bar, and let her learn the valuable lesson about believing what frat boys say while drinking.

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Originally Posted by SexyDSM95

Maybe she is super insecure and you calling her gives her an idea of where you are or what you are doing. Usually when women or men jump from one relationship into another, they bring over their insecurities. Age is not a huge factor...

DING DING DING!

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Originally Posted by drew

oh i can live with it, we've been together 3 years in april, i know when we were first together we were both really clingy, i grew out of it a little bit as i learned to trust her more, i'm sure she will do the same

18-3 = 15 22-3 = 19: Thats statutory.

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Originally Posted by PotenzaSub

Some people just don't appreciate what they have. What a shame.

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Originally Posted by drew

jesus man you're such a queer, i feel so bad for your parents. i'd hang myself if i fostered a retarded peice of **** like you

Cool it the both of you. Respect other members, or feel the fat mans wrath.

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Originally Posted by drew

she knows I don't expect it of her, i think a huge part of it is the fact that i know she wants me to check in because she has insecurity/trust issues and it's kind of insulting to me. really though, i just don't see the point in calling someone multiple times a day

Then say it to her just like that. If she responds by getting pissy, then you know the smart thing to do.

-Cliff

03-12-2007, 04:05 PM	#45
Snoozie Tri-State Post Whore Join Date: May 2006 Member #1887 iTrader: (0)	God forbid you guys should talk to your girlfriends once and a while. __________________ Ya take 'em off. "Everyone learns faster on fire." - Alkaline Trio

03-12-2007, 04:44 PM	#50
Snoozie Tri-State Post Whore Join Date: May 2006 Member #1887 iTrader: (0)	Wait Drew, doesnt she have an account on here? Does she ever come on? __________________ Ya take 'em off. "Everyone learns faster on fire." - Alkaline Trio

03-12-2007, 06:19 PM	#54
drew Tri-State Post Whore Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Broomall, PA Member #2617 My Ride: fuzion & exploder iTrader: (8)	lol i used to feel like a pedo when i picked her up from school, she goes to st joes now so it's not nearly as bad haha __________________ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 signatures.

03-12-2007, 12:12 PM	#41
jc8889 Tri-State Post Whore Banned Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Philly area Member #145 iTrader: (7)	Dude my girls 12 and Im 25, I run ****.

03-12-2007, 04:40 PM	#49
grimm Tri-State Post Whore Join Date: Dec 2006 Member #3058 iTrader: (2)	After reading thru some of the posts and your replies it really seems like you already know what you are going to do. So just do it aleady.