06-28-2008, 04:37 PM | #1 |
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lending money....
Since then, she has occasionally asked me for money, a few 100 bucks here and there and i have helped. Only a few times she has actually returned the cash. She always used the excuse that she was paying MY bills with the money. I believed her but found out after having a ridiculous car insurance bill and a cancelled phone service. well, i finally told her off and told her to stop using me as a personal ATM. I brought her to reality when she, in the end, robbed me of 2200 dollars. She did buy me the iMac i am using right now, so i waived the debt. Just last week, she asked for 100 bucks on wednesday. I handed it over to her after promising me it the next day. Once again, i did not get it. the following week, she sprung the dogs' grooming bill on me ($120) after telling me i need to pick them up. Just today, she asked for another 300 cuz my stepdad is flipping out for missing funds. I dont know how they are missing, but she came to me again. she said she will get it back to me on the life of her by next thursday. My stepdad has a history of abuse so i do not want my mom choked again and another domestic dispute case between him and i to occur. Although i feel like i did the right thing, im afraid i just dicked myself over another 500 bucks. What does everyone else think? is it worth helping her out? i mean she is my mom....ugh. /rant
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06-28-2008, 04:50 PM | #2 |
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dude i know how you feel my mom owes me almost 600. she is always asking for money. yea its your mom and everything but she has to realize that you work hard for your money and that you need it. i told my mom that im not her personal bank anymore and she hasnt ask for money since.
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06-28-2008, 04:55 PM | #3 |
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my parents are facing bankruptcy soon and are having some issues putting food on the table. They haven't asked for a dime from me. Your mom has a problem, and so do you... you're giving your mom money to gamble, or she feels she can gamble and will get the money back from you...
do you live at home? if so... bounce... I know its hard, but your parents need to fend for themselves... they're adults, they made their own problems, they have to deal with them |
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06-28-2008, 05:07 PM | #5 | |
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your mom is a grownup dont give her anything...i hate when parents are the ones acting like children. it sucks because shes your mom but she will be fine without lending her money all the time. you need to look out for number one because in the end thats all you have to count on, dont sell yourself short.
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06-28-2008, 05:40 PM | #6 | |
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my dad would complain about money all the time but bought his EX GF a new explorer and some dumb ring and an expensive fur coat and HER kids a new computer...i cringe when i see him trying to buy love |
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06-28-2008, 07:43 PM | #7 |
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That's a double negative.
Dead cause man. Dead cause.
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06-28-2008, 07:50 PM | #8 |
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My mom and step dad owe me around $18,000, my real father owes me around $8,000 and my uncle owes me about $1,700. My parents paid me back around $8,000 and my dad about $3,000...my uncle hasn't paid me back any yet. Mind you this was about 2 years ago. I'm still out over 10 grand and could really use the money at this time. You might as well chalk it up as gone dude. Family is the worst when it comes to lending out money. I guess thats what we get for being good people.
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06-28-2008, 08:32 PM | #9 | |
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from now on, i would make her sign a piece of paper stating you were LOANING her the money and that she will pay you back by a certain date. as long as you have paperwork with both parties signatures on it, you have a legal case (god forbid it ever gets to that point) but it'll help you also figure out total amounts
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06-28-2008, 08:51 PM | #10 | |
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forget the contract... tell her she's cut off.
if she's that tight financially then take care of yourself financially... offer to pay some rent if you want or try to buy groceries more regularly, just so you're carrying your own weight. but i would not let her borrow any more money the way she has. you've got to get things back on track... you're feeding the problem so its time to make some changes.
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06-28-2008, 08:56 PM | #11 | |
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how the hell did u get in that mess? 18 grand? dont u think they should of got a loan? and if they didnt have credit i would of turned them down like anyone else |
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06-28-2008, 09:12 PM | #12 | |
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or family really... you either "loan" them the money and expect never to see it again or don't loan them a cent. |
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06-29-2008, 03:27 AM | #13 |
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Ya it may be your mom but are you an asshole, I am not tryin to sound like a dick but its like sayin my family member is an alcoholic, I'm tryin to stop them but I buy em a case of beer everyday. You are feeding your moms disease its really nobodys fault but yours she takes advantage of you mom or not. Maybe you need to pay for her counceling instead of feed her problem
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06-29-2008, 06:14 AM | #14 |
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how about instead of just giving her the money find out what its for. If it's for a bill or to get groceries then offer to take care of it yourself tat way you know where the money is going otherwise tell her your broke. Thats the only way to do it. I know from experience you can't just say no to your parents their has to be a legitimate reason then they'll leave you alone lol. Or just tell them you spent it or something came up, or your car broke and you needed the money for a part. idk something
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06-29-2008, 02:07 PM | #15 |
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im with twisted. If you want to help out then find out what the money is REALLY for, if its for a bill that you feel you want to pay then write the check straight to whoever is billing you. That way you dont have to worry about her using it for other ****.
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06-29-2008, 05:56 PM | #17 |
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well. the last 300 was my step dad being a cock. he demanded 300 dollars to see if there was money in an account that has been dry and i think shut down. The thing is, this happened before and like i said, it became a legal dispute between him and i. He tried to take a swing and i just so happened to be cleaning up glass that broke and well...his cheek then was able to flap around.........
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