***TST's Official "Boring" Thread, Part Deux***

[Snoozie]

I love Ikea!!

I'm so glad it's Friday. It's just me and two other people here today.

[jpalamar]

Originally Posted by ASIAN JUL

Haha, okay. Let me know. Otherwise I'll figure out some other way to get it to you.



You're trying to go..when? I'm trying to go buy some cheap home accents, lmao

Anytime really. Nothing planned this weekend, but I did want to look at some lamps, kitchen table, and and coffee table.

[sleeperSL2]

Just got back from wendys and im disgusted. a father was in their with his autistic son. the father was on the phone, and the son was struggling with his food, and the father says to the kid "Stop playing with you effing food and eat!" i wanted to drop with father. why are certain people allowed to be parents?

[grimm]

Originally Posted by sleeperSL2

why are certain people allowed to be parents?

thats the problem. there is no one to make that judgement.

[ASIAN JUL]

How'd you know he was autistic?

[Snoozie]

Even if he's not on the Autistic spectrum, the father shouldn't be talking to the child that way. Especially if he's struggling like sleeper said.

[jpalamar]

Def can't talk to kids like that. Everyone knows you just beat them. :-)

[ASIAN JUL]

Lol, at the daycare I used to work at, there was plenty of kids that would be pains in the asses about eating just to **** with us. Making little kids eat is one of my biggest nightmares

[Scapegoat]

Originally Posted by Snoozie

Even if he's not on the Autistic spectrum, the father shouldn't be talking to the child that way.

why not? if my kid is dicking around instead of eating i'm gonna tell him/her to eat their damn food instead of playing with it... if they keep doing it i'm beating their ass

[OMGz Turbo]

Originally Posted by Scapegoat

why not? if my kid is dicking around instead of eating i'm gonna tell him/her to eat their damn food instead of playing with it... if they keep doing it i'm beating their ass

LOL I do this with my daughter. But when i raise my voice to her its like the hammer of god is coming from above. She does whatever she has to from that point on.

[Snoozie]

Since when is telling a child to eat their ****ing food an effective method for getting them to do so? I don't think that you should have to scare your child into doing what they're told. I know that my sisters and I were raised with a very heavy hand and it totally sucked. And I very much resented my parents because of it. I just think that you'd get a better result if you did it in a positive manner, much like dog training. lol

[ASIAN JUL]

There was a little boy who would make himself throw up on you if you made him eat healthy stuff.. he would do this unless you gave him something like a cookie or pudding. Carrots or other healthy stuff though? Forget it. No wonder the kid was a fat ****.

[Scapegoat]

i'm not bartering with a child for good behavior. they're not going to get a treat if they eat their wendy's meal... that is the treat.

if they don't listen to a request to eat their food and stop playing with it... you raise your voice. if they continue to disobey you grab their little ungrateful ass, toss their food and leave and have a few choice words outside.

i'm not going to have a heavy hand. but i'm not going to barter with my children in such situations, i'm the adult. A child needs to be raised with a a healthy mix of fear and respect of their elders. obviously that entails positive reinforcement... but offering them a "treat" to be respectful when they're being disrespectful is only going to lead to reinforcing that it is ok to be disrespectful b/c they're going to get something good.

it's just like a dog... if it runs out into the street, you smack it till it learns not to do that b/c it's going to get smacked. it doesn't understand it'll get hit by a car, but it sure as hell will understand that it's going to get hurt by you if it runs off.

if it is doing a behavior you don't agree with, you have to give it a reason not to do it.

Jul, i'd have let the little ****er starve, he def would have went home hungry and i would have had a few words with the parents when they came complaining to me about the fat **** complaining about being hungry

[jpalamar]

I had the reminder stick when I was little. I got hit with it and it reminded me not to do that again lol

[Scapegoat]

Originally Posted by jpalamar

I had the reminder stick when I was little. I got hit with it and it reminded me not to do that again lol

haha, awesome. i'm so using that

[jpalamar]

It used th hang on the wall of the basement steps. To this day I cringe when I walk post j/k... but it does actually still hang there.

[sleeperSL2]

I knew he was autistic by his facial features and how he was speaking..plus i work with autistic children and have an autistic nephew. The boy was struggling to unwrap his burger as well as putting his straw in to his cup.

[~Brian~]

Originally Posted by jpalamar

I had the reminder stick when I was little. I got hit with it and it reminded me not to do that again lol

I had something similar... it was an 8" wide board with a handle that my parents used. They took one of those tools used to burn things into wood and wrote on it: "We must learn to listen"...

Ah, those were the days.. haha

[piku]

Originally Posted by Snoozie

Since when is telling a child to eat their ****ing food an effective method for getting them to do so? I don't think that you should have to scare your child into doing what they're told. I know that my sisters and I were raised with a very heavy hand and it totally sucked. And I very much resented my parents because of it. I just think that you'd get a better result if you did it in a positive manner, much like dog training. lol

No, then you get kids with a spoiled rotten sense of self entitlement and no discipline. It's just my opinion but I think the weak parenting is part of what's wrong with the US these days. You can't just be heavy handed, you have to be heavy handed selectively and with purpose, but I think it's a part of good parenting when applied responsibly.

Originally Posted by Scapegoat

i'm not bartering with a child for good behavior. they're not going to get a treat if they eat their wendy's meal... that is the treat.

if they don't listen to a request to eat their food and stop playing with it... you raise your voice. if they continue to disobey you grab their little ungrateful ass, toss their food and leave and have a few choice words outside.

i'm not going to have a heavy hand. but i'm not going to barter with my children in such situations, i'm the adult. A child needs to be raised with a a healthy mix of fear and respect of their elders. obviously that entails positive reinforcement... but offering them a "treat" to be respectful when they're being disrespectful is only going to lead to reinforcing that it is ok to be disrespectful b/c they're going to get something good.

it's just like a dog... if it runs out into the street, you smack it till it learns not to do that b/c it's going to get smacked. it doesn't understand it'll get hit by a car, but it sure as hell will understand that it's going to get hurt by you if it runs off.

if it is doing a behavior you don't agree with, you have to give it a reason not to do it.

Jul, i'd have let the little ****er starve, he def would have went home hungry and i would have had a few words with the parents when they came complaining to me about the fat **** complaining about being hungry

I don't plan to be quite that strict but I generally agree with this style of parenting. It's how I was brought up, and while it didn't help me much in my rebellious teenage years, I like to think that it formed who I am as an adult very well.

Originally Posted by ~Brian~

I had something similar... it was an 8" wide board with a handle that my parents used. They took one of those tools used to burn things into wood and wrote on it: "We must learn to listen"...

Ah, those were the days.. haha

Yeah, I was exposed to numerous harsh punishments from a stepfather. To the point that I think being told to eat your ****ing food and shutup isn't really a big deal. Ours wasn't 8 inches, it was much more narrow which meant it hurt more. It was also cleverly decorated. They bought it from the store. I forget what it said though. One choice experience I recall was that I wasn't eating my food... I don't know why, I was just full I guess. My step father decided I will eat and grabbed a shovel of green beans off my plate and put them in my mouth. I guess he pushed back too hard because it got my gag reflex and I vomited all over the table. It was great.

[Scapegoat]

i wouldn't call myself strict... i'm sure the future mrs. wilsbach will be yelling at me more than the kids lol

but i won't stand for being disrespectful, especially in public. you think you can combat me... you can't.