***TST's Official "Whatever" Thread***

[DPancoast]

Originally Posted by Oakes

I need myself and my life in order before I ever consider someone else to be part of it. I dont need to make someone a part of it to make it better, I can do that on my own and then introduce someone into it.
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QFT. I wish everyone would at least consider this concept. The only person that can make you happy is yourself. Saying you need someone else is a bandaid and it's not fair. It's even more not fair to them if you use them to become happy and ditch them.

Don't try and make someone else happy until you're happy.

[Scapegoat]

i'm pretty much too picky. I find things wrong with people. I'm trying to realize that there is no perfect person, just someone perfect for me /emo

[doug]

Originally Posted by crazyduckme

Ah! You all think you're better then everyone :P LOL JK.

He was just a complete tool. Never ever came to my house... i always had to go to his basement in his parents house. Never wanted to go out to eat or see a movie or anything. We'd always be in his basement watching tv/movies or me watching him play Call of Duty.

now that's a big YAWN

hah.. stereotypical subie fanboiz.. lol. yeah.. that sounds like no fun.. dates are FTW, then you chill and watch movies after the date..

[Erik]

Originally Posted by Scapegoat

i'm pretty much too picky. I find things wrong with people. I'm trying to realize that there is no perfect person, just someone perfect for me /emo

i shred everyone apart including myself. it doesnt normally effect my decisions or anything. just something that sits in my noggin

[crazyduckme]

Originally Posted by doug

hah.. stereotypical subie fanboiz.. lol. yeah.. that sounds like no fun.. dates are FTW, then you chill and watch movies after the date..

Yeah, I love dates. We only went out ONCE for dinner (our first "date") and our movie was sold out so we went back to his place and watched something. But blah, I feel like I wasted so much time on him... waiting for him to grow up. Didn't work.

[Scapegoat]

Originally Posted by Erik

i shred everyone apart including myself. it doesnt normally effect my decisions or anything. just something that sits in my noggin

well, it usually ends up in me no longer talking to someone over something stupid... and on the flip side continuing to try for something with someone who just isn't right for me.

this new chick is pretty cool, 29, has a job and her own place... does freelance work, family is in the police. we share a lot in common. it won't last

[Oakes]

Originally Posted by DPancoast

QFT. I wish everyone would at least consider this concept. The only person that can make you happy is yourself. Saying you need someone else is a bandaid and it's not fair. It's even more not fair to them if you use them to become happy and ditch them.

Don't try and make someone else happy until you're happy.

I can't tell you how many times I've heard

"My life was in shambles and then he came along" or "I dunno how I woulda made it through without him, now we wanna get married"

That, to me, is like Hey you got me out of it, I'll keep you. I've always fended for myself, with the exception of family, I've often dealt with things on my own. Even more so lately, I've been non-dependent on even family. To think I'd have to share the burdens or put burdens on someone else and then "feel" that they are the ones for getting me out of the mess is almost too selfish too me. Granted, that's what friends and family are for to begin with..

[Erik]

Originally Posted by Scapegoat

this new chick is pretty cool, 29, has a job and her own place... does freelance work, family is in the police. we share a lot in common. it won't last

hah dude, that sucks. i know several people that are like that. perfect couple but there is something they cant stand about the other one. Like the dude couldnt handle his girlfriend playing with her hair by brushing it on her cheek and stuff. im like thats....nothing at all!? but it bugged him.

[HickRocket1258]

Originally Posted by crazyduckme

Yeah, I love dates. We only went out ONCE for dinner (our first "date") and our movie was sold out so we went back to his place and watched something. But blah, I feel like I wasted so much time on him... waiting for him to grow up. Didn't work.

Haha my gf and I usually stay in and watch movies. I have a lot of movies she hasn't seen so it saves us money in the long run instead of going out a lot. I have made her cut her spending habits by a lot as well. She said before me she would just go and spend money on all sorts of stupid **** she didn't really need. I know I want a house soon and so does she. That's why she moved back to her parents after realized she was wasting money with an apartment.

But I agree with D. These days you have to look out for yourself. That's one key concept I have grabbed from my friend and it has worked out for me.

[crazyduckme]

I've always been independent. Never relied on ANYONE for ANYTHING. Some people were "there" for me or whatever though the hard times... but never really helped or changed my life. I've been through a lot... that's pretty vague, but it's the truth. I was taken when Brandon started talking to me... I was working... I was fine... we just clicked and been with him ever since I dumped the last bf. I'm not letting him do what he did with his last gf and have him pay off my debt.... I'm very capable of doing it myself and I'm not a gold digging waste of life.

[Scapegoat]

Originally Posted by Erik

hah dude, that sucks. i know several people that are like that. perfect couple but there is something they cant stand about the other one. Like the dude couldnt handle his girlfriend playing with her hair by brushing it on her cheek and stuff. im like thats....nothing at all!? but it bugged him.

nah, nothing stupid like that. stuff like, i don't like how she kisses, or talks, or a certain body part isn't up to par with what i like

i nitpick... but at the same time there have been times in my life where i didn't and had a blast but look back and try to understand what i was thinking haha

[crazyduckme]

Originally Posted by HickRocket1258

Haha my gf and I usually stay in and watch movies. I have a lot of movies she hasn't seen so it saves us money in the long run instead of going out a lot. I have made her cut her spending habits by a lot as well. She said before me she would just go and spend money on all sorts of stupid **** she didn't really need. I know I want a house soon and so does she. That's why she moved back to her parents after realized she was wasting money with an apartment.

But I agree with D. These days you have to look out for yourself. That's one key concept I have grabbed from my friend and it has worked out for me.

I love staying in and doing stuff like that... but when you're getting to know someone, dates are nice and simple. It was weird telling my parents I was going to a guy's house they never met... and they NEVER did meet him, cause he was too chicken to ever come over.

[Erik]

Originally Posted by crazyduckme

I love staying in and doing stuff like that... but when you're getting to know someone, dates are nice and simple. It was weird telling my parents I was going to a guy's house they never met... and they NEVER did meet him, cause he was too chicken to ever come over.

i hate people that are afraid to meet rents. way to big of a deal to me for that to not happen

[crazyduckme]

Originally Posted by Erik

i hate people that are afraid to meet rents. way to big of a deal to me for that to not happen

Yeah seriously!! That bugged me so much. It made no sense why he never wanted to come over. Ugh.

It also pissed off my parents cause they never met the guy and were worried about me and whatnot cause they didnt believe I was going to his house!! That jerk.

[Oakes]

My parents are tired of meeting girls, actually, theyre more tired of keeping track of the names. They know how I am, I mean after my two older brothers, one was a pro-baseball player and dated models and stuff, the other was just the star football player in high school. I don't have their reputations, but I've done/doing just fine.

[russiankid]

Holy hell I am sore.

[Erik]

although before, when my step father lived here before the rents divorced, i would push away the idea of bringing people home, but instead take my mom and the girlfriend out to dinner. my stepdad was a tool bag and said i was a little ****er that didnt deserve girls. im assuming he thought i was gay or something? idk....

[DPancoast]

That's just how I see it. I mean granted you're always going to have **** in your life but it's all apart of finding someone. Sometimes you need a support system for certain situations. For me it was my whole car ordeal. Without Michelle, my mom and dad, and my friends I would have caved. I feel that the one will come at the right time in the right place.

Then it turns into if ou click or not, if you work well with that person, etc. We all know this but approach it differently. Michelle and I have been through a lot of similar events and have learned a lot of similar lessons in our lives and we have similar plans for life. To me that's the only way it can work because if you're not being yourself and changing for someone (and ending up unhappy later because of it) then it's not where you should be. Be yourself. That's all that matters. Eventually you'll find that person where you're both being yourselves and staying happy/rolling with the punches. Which takes some molding but it still doesn't change who you really are. It's a big difference.

[Oakes]

Originally Posted by russiankid

Holy hell I am sore.

Holy hell, captain random post has again disrupted the current conversation!

Surprise? No.

I may have missed "the one" there is one girl among the MANY i have been with/dated/hooked up with/drunkly woke up next to, I repeat...ONE...that I wish I could have back.

[crazyduckme]

Originally Posted by DPancoast

That's just how I see it. I mean granted you're always going to have **** in your life but it's all apart of finding someone. Sometimes you need a support system for certain situations. For me it was my whole car ordeal. Without Michelle, my mom and dad, and my friends I would have caved. I feel that the one will come at the right time in the right place.

Then it turns into if ou click or not, if you work well with that person, etc. We all know this but approach it differently. Michelle and I have been through a lot of similar events and have learned a lot of similar lessons in our lives and we have similar plans for life. To me that's the only way it can work because if you're not being yourself and changing for someone (and ending up unhappy later because of it) then it's not where you should be. Be yourself. That's all that matters. Eventually you'll find that person where you're both being yourselves and staying happy/rolling with the punches. Which takes some molding but it still doesn't change who you really are. It's a big difference.

I hear ya buddy. I ALWAYS said: "Never change for anyone". It's just a way of being fake and being how OTHERS want you to be. If you can't be yourself around the one you love, then it's not real.

Always be yourself. For realz.