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abrok99 · 03-29-2009, 09:40 PM

dont let her go man. this is gonna sound cheesy but, do whatever it takes to get her back. it sounds like you truely loved her and you can't let her go. but realize she needs time to think about everything and she is gonna make her own decisions on things but im sure she will be willing to talk soon. also dont drink yourself into a drunked stooper or smoke or do whatever to "get rid of the pain" just think of ways to make it up to her.

Spocknasty · 03-29-2009, 09:50 PM

Did you guys fight a lot? The slandering is not a good sign.

Give her an ultimatum.. Tell her she has some time to process everything, and if the relationship has any merit, she will come back. If not, guess she really didn't care as deeply about you as you thought.

If she doesn't come back, oh well. Shouldn't have cheated and she's just not that into you. Move on! Trade that rock in for a turbo.

crazyukrainian · 03-29-2009, 10:07 PM

+1 on giving her some time to cool off..... oh, and just to make sure, she didnt misunderstand you right? cause she could be slandering or she could really think that youre THAT bad for real

den9 · 03-29-2009, 11:40 PM

post pics in the garbage bin

ndubz · 03-30-2009, 01:34 AM

Work on my car. That bitch dont cause no drama.

CleanNeon98 · 03-30-2009, 01:35 AM

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Originally Posted by ndubz

Work on my car. That bitch dont cause no drama.

I thought to get over girls, you have to get them first?

Me, I hang out with my friends and meet new girls. At the end of the day, no girl IMO is worth crying over. Friends are forever, girls come and go.

3rdGenMr2Girl · 03-30-2009, 01:39 AM

^ yeah but i think this was the forever type of deal. coming from a girl, let her be for a little. it's a lot to process, even if it was two years ago. for a long time, you potentially cheating again is going to be in the back of her mind. she'll come to you, don't keep calling and begging and etc. and if she doesn't, go out with your friends and completely cut off contact. that's the only way to get over her.

ndubz · 03-30-2009, 01:44 AM

LOL Alex, U ARE SOOOO EFFFING FUNNY.

No but seriously, last time around I just hung out with my friends and worked on my car alot for a few days. But that was before this crazy bitch tried to have me framed for theft. ****ing ****. But I sure got over it then lol

CleanNeon98 · 03-30-2009, 01:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ndubz

LOL Alex, U ARE SOOOO EFFFING FUNNY.

No but seriously, last time around I just hung out with my friends and worked on my car alot for a few days. But that was before this crazy bitch tried to have me framed for theft. ****ing ****. But I sure got over it then lol

You stole her heart dude, she told me last night.

ndubz · 03-30-2009, 01:48 AM

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Originally Posted by CleanNeon98

You stole her heart dude, she told me last night.

LMAO for real this time that was witty as hell.

Menacing_Gc8 · 03-30-2009, 02:10 AM

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Originally Posted by russiankid

I think the reason she reacted the way she did is because she trusted you for for 3 years, and then she comes to find out you cheated on her. There really isn't a real way to get over things like this. Everyone reacts differently and gets over it differently. Only advice I can give you is don't turn to drugs or alcohol. They won't solve your problems, they will only relieve you for the time being.

Best Advice YET.. dont turn to this crap.. it wont do any good other than a lay here and there an perhaps her finding out about that. if you truly love her.. dont find a rebound, a sure lay, or anything of the sort relating to another female. If you do, she may NEVER trust you again.See below for more details..

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Originally Posted by 3rdGenMr2Girl

^ yeah but i think this was the forever type of deal. coming from a girl, let her be for a little. it's a lot to process, even if it was two years ago. for a long time, you potentially cheating again is going to be in the back of her mind. she'll come to you, don't keep calling and begging and etc. and if she doesn't, go out with your friends and completely cut off contact. that's the only way to get over her.

+1 It is alot to process the thought of your man of 3 years 1 year ih cheating on you.. I mean think how you would feel if your feeling for this girl were , well obviously like her were the first year.. when you cheated.. Seriously, you would be devastated ( I can see you are now but think back then ). Girls rarely think of the guy for now.. deep down we really want a guy that will last forever. if we dont think its going to last forever, we do one of 2 things.. leave and maybe later come back, or leave and never come back.

3 yrs into your relationship you tell her you cheated 2 yrs ago.. now you never said if you mentioned that was ONLY that one time, but the fact of the matter is, YOU CHEATED.. to a girl thats like ultimate heartbreak. We wonder what we didnt do to keep a guy from straying, or Why things went wrong when everything seemed right. Point in case.. probably what she was thinking.. Just take some time away, let her think things thru and maybe in a month or so, talk to her. explain why you did what you did, or perhaps even dont explain, tell her it was you and your stupidity and nothing to do with her. my ex is trying the same and tho really know i SHOULDNT go back to him.. hes getting my heart little by little.. granted I still barely trust him for what he did and am currently with someone ( who until i find out otherwise,isnt cheating, and I dont foresee leaving)... point is.. EARN her trust back in a month or so. If she really had feelings for you, She wil bel wondering why you wont talk to her in a month or perhaps even 2. once you work thru that issue, things will come back to normal, or very close to it, and perhaps even you will earn her trust and love back again. but make sure if you DO find a temporary replacement, untill all works out, only those you KNOW AND TRUST wont say a thing to her about the temp thing.. girls arent typically understanding that someone filled thier spot because a guys basic need of sex hasnt been fulfilled.. and the hand only lasts so long ( or so I assume). But seriously.. we dont exactly like to hear we have been replaced even temporarily by someone we love.

Eclipse GSX 61 · 03-30-2009, 02:41 AM

Well put it this way. You could be in the dumbest position of your life and dump that "one" because you got a little bored of things. Now she won't take me back and basically when we were going out nothing could have separated us. Now I just feel useless most times. Partiless community college doesn't help either.

My tip is just stick at it and try to figure out what her obvious mental issues are. No offense but she sounds irrational.

Spocknasty · 03-30-2009, 03:04 AM

Light her on fire?

92sileighty · 03-30-2009, 03:19 AM

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Originally Posted by CRXed

Light her on fire?

den9 · 03-30-2009, 03:40 AM

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Originally Posted by CRXed

Light her on fire?

only if you really love her

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lHQgD...eature=related
courtesy of the dead milkmen

2drStunner · 03-30-2009, 07:28 AM

I appericate your honesty with her but dont think it was a great idea. If you lived with it for two years then apperntly you could of taken it to the grave. If you honestly havent cheated and you loved/love her then you should of left it alone. Now with all that said its to late now to not tell her so give her some time and maybe send a occasinal text or call but dont nag her. Ive learned alot from past and my current relansinship. One of them being theres nothing worse then a pissed off/hurt women. You'll be fine bro. The heart will heal and so will you.

superskaterxes · 03-30-2009, 07:50 AM

if you did cheat on her its prob better that u diddent tell her but atleast ur a better man for it now. everything happens for a reason and if it wasent meant to be it wasent. if you really still love her then do anything u can to get her back. she prob just got really scared and thats why she left. if she loves you too she will always come back.

P.S. the best thing to do when your heartbroken is buy car parts. go out and splurge on something big you have been eying for you car for a long time (cough turbo kit cough).

Drftpretty · 03-30-2009, 09:36 AM

Thanks for all the great advice guys. Im pretty impressed to be honest.

On a side note, I have been shopping all the time. I feel like a 17yr old girl. I literally havent bought new shoes since I met her and yesterday I went insane on clothes, a watch, shoes, new egyptian silk sheets lol. Am I going insane?

Drftpretty · 03-30-2009, 09:39 AM

Well I just remembered that her cousins husband is on here. So if you are reading this man, or if your wife is, please Pm me with any questions. I love jessi and her son and I am not trying to start anything. I just couldnt keep this to myself anymore, I needed some real advice. I mean no harm or drama to the family at all. Im just heart broken. I would prefer if this didnt get back to her but I wont ask you not to tell her.

doug · 03-30-2009, 09:43 AM

In all honesty, stop contacting her. best advice you'll get.

03-29-2009, 09:40 PM	#21
abrok99 Tri-State Post Whore Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: that nj jawn Member #6039 My Ride: 2004 Subaru WRX swagon iTrader: (0)	dont let her go man. this is gonna sound cheesy but, do whatever it takes to get her back. it sounds like you truely loved her and you can't let her go. but realize she needs time to think about everything and she is gonna make her own decisions on things but im sure she will be willing to talk soon. also dont drink yourself into a drunked stooper or smoke or do whatever to "get rid of the pain" just think of ways to make it up to her. __________________ RIP- Ryan Sherwood. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 signatures.

03-29-2009, 09:50 PM	#22
Spocknasty Meh Join Date: Oct 2005 Member #986 iTrader: (5)	Did you guys fight a lot? The slandering is not a good sign. Give her an ultimatum.. Tell her she has some time to process everything, and if the relationship has any merit, she will come back. If not, guess she really didn't care as deeply about you as you thought. If she doesn't come back, oh well. Shouldn't have cheated and she's just not that into you. Move on! Trade that rock in for a turbo. __________________ formerly CRXed To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 signatures. I <3 JSC Speed and Liquid Powder Coats!

03-30-2009, 02:41 AM	#32
Eclipse GSX 61 Tri-State Post Whore Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Perkasie, PA Member #7996 My Ride: 14' Mercedes C300 iTrader: (2)	Well put it this way. You could be in the dumbest position of your life and dump that "one" because you got a little bored of things. Now she won't take me back and basically when we were going out nothing could have separated us. Now I just feel useless most times. Partiless community college doesn't help either. My tip is just stick at it and try to figure out what her obvious mental issues are. No offense but she sounds irrational. __________________ 97 GSX (sold) 05 SRT 4 ACR (sold) 02 RSX

03-30-2009, 03:04 AM	#33
Spocknasty Meh Join Date: Oct 2005 Member #986 iTrader: (5)	Light her on fire? __________________ formerly CRXed To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 signatures. I <3 JSC Speed and Liquid Powder Coats!

03-30-2009, 07:50 AM	#37
superskaterxes Tri-State Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: DC Metro Member #10675 My Ride: 2006 Mazdaspeed 6 iTrader: (0)	if you did cheat on her its prob better that u diddent tell her but atleast ur a better man for it now. everything happens for a reason and if it wasent meant to be it wasent. if you really still love her then do anything u can to get her back. she prob just got really scared and thats why she left. if she loves you too she will always come back. P.S. the best thing to do when your heartbroken is buy car parts. go out and splurge on something big you have been eying for you car for a long time (cough turbo kit cough). __________________ GT3076R BITCHES ~ TXS BOV ~ 3" MAF SRI ~ AP PROtune'd ~ MBC ~ Custom FMIC w/Treadstone TR8 Core ~ CPE DP ~ DNP Mani w/Tial 38mm MV-S EWG VTA'd~ CPE BT TIP ~ TWM SS ~ CPE RMM ~ TTFMM ~ CPE RDM ~ BC CO's slammed ~ SPC BJ's ~ EBC Red's ~ Stoptech's ~ Technafit SS Lines ~ Autometer Boost & STRI EGT ~ 20% Tint ~ LED Tails ~ Denso ITV-24's ~ CPE Dual CBE ~ Whiteline RSB ~ PnP'd IM ~ CDFP Internals ~ labonte meth kit ~ VC tapped OCC

03-29-2009, 10:07 PM	#23
crazyukrainian Tri-State Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Philly/Warrington Member #8644 My Ride: 03 Avalon / 07 SV650S iTrader: (0)	+1 on giving her some time to cool off..... oh, and just to make sure, she didnt misunderstand you right? cause she could be slandering or she could really think that youre THAT bad for real

03-29-2009, 11:40 PM	#24
den9 Tri-State Post Whore Banned Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: doylestown Member #1198 My Ride: turbo diesel iTrader: (0)	post pics in the garbage bin

03-30-2009, 01:34 AM	#25
ndubz Tri-State Post Whore Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: tristate area Member #6107 iTrader: (1)	Work on my car. That bitch dont cause no drama.

03-30-2009, 01:44 AM	#28
ndubz Tri-State Post Whore Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: tristate area Member #6107 iTrader: (1)	LOL Alex, U ARE SOOOO EFFFING FUNNY. No but seriously, last time around I just hung out with my friends and worked on my car alot for a few days. But that was before this crazy bitch tried to have me framed for theft. **ing **. But I sure got over it then lol

03-30-2009, 09:43 AM	#40
doug Tri-State Post Whore Join Date: May 2005 Location: Springfield, PA Member #450 My Ride: 2007 WRX STi Limited, 1969 Z/28 Camaro iTrader: (1)	In all honesty, stop contacting her. best advice you'll get.

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