relationship problem ruh roh help

[redwrxwagon02]

ok so last night i was hanging out with my gf
and i went to check my email cuz im waiting for an email from and ebay guy
so i go into yahoo and i havent checked it in like idk 5 or 6 months

and well its all porn spam which pisses me off
and im not one for porn at all no lie but she thinks iv subscribed to all these emails because it has my email address in the email

no matter what i say she doesnt believe me and idk what to do
iv never lied to her about anything
im an honest guy i really am

she just cant seem to believe that i really didnt subscribe for porn emails
i really really really wanna be with this girl
shes everything iv ever looked for in a gf

if i didnt feel so strongly about her i wouldnt be so troubled over this
shes on the verge of breaking up with me
idk how to repair this any help is much obliged please help

[CHAOS]

dude, honestly if she cant look past an email... whats next? i understand you want to be with her... but eff that man... thats just retarded... its an email from a spammer and im pretty sure thats obvious... girls are crazy.

edit: i apologize if this is not what you wanted to hear but i am jaded as far as relationships go.

[05OCsrt-4]

wow, she's going to break up with you over that? I'm sorry but she's taking it way too far. Porn is one of the leading companies (well behind oil), so even if you don't lookor subscribe to it, 90% of america look at porn. She's going to have to learn to trust u, which it shows she lacks. So pretty much all you can do is talk to her, and bring up the trust issue. You could sign up for a vender for your car and start getting porn spam, just state that to her. As soon as you make an email it's pretty much a given that you'll get spam.

[redwrxwagon02]

thanks guys i just dont know how to prove to her that it wasnt me thats all i wanna do is prove to her that it wasnt me

[05OCsrt-4]

Originally Posted by redwrxwagon02

thanks guys i just dont know how to prove to her that it wasnt me thats all i wanna do is prove to her that it wasnt me

there's honestly no way to prove to her at this point, it's there, that's clear cut evidence and you'll never find out how they got your email. If you like her as much as you say, she'll believe you. If not, then you found out early.

[redwrxwagon02]

my thing is i usually f*ck up my relationships but this time its really not me i will bring up the trust issue im just so scared of losing her shes like my best friend

[ITSTOCK]

You typed it up almost like a poem, so close to being a haiku.

I can't help with the porn spam thing though. Either she'll get over or you don't, just look at it that way. You have a 50/50 chance of her not caring by tonight. Just don't talk about it, and if she brings it up, laugh it up and explain it's just spam. Don't bother explaining more than once though, as it's not worth it.

[CHAOS]

Originally Posted by ITSTOCK

You typed it up almost like a poem, so close to being a haiku.

i noticed that as well.

[redwrxwagon02]

she thinks im like living a dual life

perve on the intarnerd

nice guy in real life

im not like that though and she doesnt believe me

[Buster]

^---haha thats pretty good.

Girls always jump to conclusions about that. Ive never really been into porn either and the same thing has happened to me. All you really can do is just reassure her that you want her and only her. Maybe she feels guilty about your relationship and how/how not physical it is. Just from what i think i know it just seems most girls feel very insecure about themselves and cant get past the fact that there is a skinny naked thing there for your potential viewing. All you can do is just let her know that even though its there, you've ignored it.

[Honest_Bob]

When she saw all the porn emails your should have said "well your not naked at the moment now are you?".

You would be in the same situation but at least you would have got a laugh out of it.

[Buster]

for some reason all i could think of was that old Tommy Lee song "get naked"

[redwrxwagon02]

lol thanks bob and keith
she knows i find her very attractive because i do
idk she doesnt wanna hear me out at all
she just shuts me up and says your not the person i thought u were
but she knows its bull
god i wish there was a time machine

[Buster]

yeah, time travel would be great. theres lots of things I'd like to take back. But it cant happen so you can just hope that she can see past it. How long have you been together? and did you say she likes your best friend? As in shes attracted to him? I didnt know she knew me.. haha kidding

[redwrxwagon02]

lol no shes like my best friend iv kown her for a few years but only recently the past 2 months or so we got together it felt right but if shes gonna be so quick to drop me like that over one little bs thing like this then myabe i dont need her

[Buster]

ah dont get so negative just yet, you know each other already its just an adjustment going from friends to friends who touch naughty things lol

[SexyDSM95]

How old are you and the soon to be current ex? All I can say is it's going to be very difficult to change her mind not because of something you did, but because she is insecure. Even if you tell her that you are attracted to her highly and you hold her in the highest regard, sexually stimulated by her, find her beautiful etc. etc. there is still the fact you have those spoof porn/make your penis larger e-mails that even I get (and I am a girl).

All you can really do is sit her down, make it known it's the truth that Yahoo is really bad at blocking these e-mails and you are doing what you can to attempt to prevent it. If that's not good enough for her and she has this trust issue with you I can only foresee worse happenings further down the road.

[bastid]

She needs to cool out, or you'll have MAD trust and jealousy issues later. Even if you did subscribe to the webpage and fapped away furiously until you bled, she still really has no say unless she can provide a concise reason for it. You aren't doing anything wrong, and clearly she is just being naive and immature about the whole situation. I'd talk with her and let her know that she needs to trust you or everything else won't work.

[redwrxwagon02]

Originally Posted by SexyDSM95

How old are you and the soon to be current ex? All I can say is it's going to be very difficult to change her mind not because of something you did, but because she is insecure. Even if you tell her that you are attracted to her highly and you hold her in the highest regard, sexually stimulated by her, find her beautiful etc. etc. there is still the fact you have those spoof porn/make your penis larger e-mails that even I get (and I am a girl).

All you can really do is sit her down, make it known it's the truth that Yahoo is really bad at blocking these e-mails and you are doing what you can to attempt to prevent it. If that's not good enough for her and she has this trust issue with you I can only foresee worse happenings further down the road.

im 20 shes 20 and yeah she is very insecure but just because one of her ex bf's was addicted to porn and put pics of her up on the web and did alot of terrible things to her but she wont even talk to me she told me to stop contacting her because she doesnt wanna be with a pervert i dont know how to make her see that im not like that and she has alot of trust issues because shes been cheated on alot and so have i but for some reason i do trust her because of the way we are when were together i just dont see why she cant trust me and look past all this she can be very close minded sometimes and she tends to get cold and close up i just wish she would be fair to me and let me say my piece

[SexyDSM95]

Originally Posted by redwrxwagon02

im 20 shes 20 and yeah she is very insecure but just because one of her ex bf's was addicted to porn and put pics of her up on the web and did alot of terrible things to her but she wont even talk to me she told me to stop contacting her because she doesnt wanna be with a pervert i dont know how to make her see that im not like that and she has alot of trust issues because shes been cheated on alot and so have i but for some reason i do trust her because of the way we are when were together i just dont see why she cant trust me and look past all this she can be very close minded sometimes and she tends to get cold and close up i just wish she would be fair to me and let me say my piece

Sounds like me (the last part about closing up). The best thing that can be done for me (with a current boyfriend) is to give me my time and space and I will open up to him on my terms when I feel ready. She has a bad past, seems like she swings from one relationship to another without anytime for her to heal after all the deceit. As I told you before, you are not going to change her mind because these are her insecurities. So, whatever you tell her or attempt to tell her she is not going to listen right away because of it.

All you can really do is remind her that you have probably been the best thing in her life, honest, sincere, never cheated on her, etc. One day it will click to her.