hook ups are the best. i think all of my "one nighters" were through friends

its just honesty. you get what you want, while laying the expectations. you give the girl, the other human in this "relationship" a chance to say... "no, that doesn't work for me. it's either me only or not at all". if you just want to **** around but keep someone around to call up and date and bring around to your friends and she's not digging that set up (which most won't, or if they do they'll think you're not serious) you can move on.

i dated a chick for a month and a half, i told her it wasn't serious and that she would never be my girlfriend. she came around 5 our of 7 nights a week and we hung out with, mainly her friends. i ditched her when i grew bored (she was a moron).

i felt bad, but at the same time i told her flat out, multiple times even, that i wasn't interested in a serious relationship

yeah, it gets on my nerves.

but, i am a really blockhead/idiot when it comes to that stuff. i mean, it's almost to the point a chick has to say "do me now" and whip out her tits before i get the point :roll:

yeah, ive also asked my sister to "hook" me up with some of her friends.

her answer, "No, they're a bitches. That, and you need to aim lower." :lol:

I too am generally bad with signs.. Doesnt help that if we hook up first either lol :o.

Oh well. GF now is great, I am thankful to my friend/friend's wife (who is also a friend, and tried hitting on me in HS apparently) lol.

i'm going to sound so shallow and asshole like now, but, none of my friends here (locally) have hot friends to hook me up with :lol:

All the girls I slept with I said I didn't want to have a relationship. They still caved in and did it. They got a little too attached though. Got annoying, but somehow I was able to shoo them away. Honestly does work and they definately fall for it.

yeah... that's generally how it is... or they don't have female friends... right Snoozie?!?

thats how it was for me. None of my friends are single and their GFs seem to not have any girl friends.. or ones that I would want to date. :roll: lol

they don't fall for anything. that's the genius here. you're telling them the truth. if they try for more, even after being told there is no chance, it's on them

I can honestly say I dont have ANY female friends I'd hook up with any guys. I know how retarded my friends are and how they act when they're in a relationship. I'm not doing it to protect my friends, I'd refuse to save someone's sanity.

i mean i am really bad with signs, well, here's a story of how bad i am,

i was in san diego at a bar, fairly drunk, and these 2 asian chicks walk up to us and start talking to me and my friend. i don't remeber much of the convo cause i was pretty drunk. well, i guess me and one of the chicks connected (we started talking about korean stuff, i think). anyways, she asked me "me, me and my friend are going for some sushi, want to come?"

me, in all my glory said, "Nope, i'm good, alrdy ate."

:facepalm

i didn't relize the idiotic mistake i made till i got back to the ship (was a port call), then i started curing up a storm relizing what i just did

always is, :lol:

i never understood this about women...well, i guess its instinctual (going back to our more animalistic instincts)

but, if you're not interested in dating a guy, and you're not interested in dating a friend of yours... where is the harm? who knows, they could work out better than ever expected.

i don't think i've ever had a hook up hook up... more of a hanging out with friends from different circles and they bring along a friend and we hit it off. its easy to hit it off with a friend of a friend though... you've already passed the "ok to keep around" test

That's very true. I felt like non of it was my fault when I wasn't looking for anything.

In fact this girl I worked with at my job before this one. I'm trying to tell her that this guy is just using her for sex when she has something for him and he said he doesn't want a relationship. She's like I forced it out of him though, yada ya. She was so ****ing incoherent, and here she almost ****ed him last night. She knows he doesn't want anything yet she continued to want him or something. I kind of rheemed her out.

i fell into the habit for a while that i would try so hard, i'd end up finding someone who was crazy, and not oh we've dated a month lets get married crazy, the "i dont wanna use a rubber cuz i want kids crazy". i stopped lookin after that haha

Haha wow, that is crazy for sure.

I guess I never thought of that last part. it goes back to the things I've been through with them in the past though. They've used me and been retarded about life. I'd hate to think a friend of mine would put some guy I'm trying to help out through a ****ty time.

Plus, all... If not most of my girl friends are drinking their life and parents money away at school.

haha yeah. and then another one. after every time we did it, she would say " i think im pregnant". after the third time and she wasn't, told her we were done and never to talk to me again, i was a friggin sophomore in high school haha

lol wtf? how old was she? she end up on maury?

she was a senior at the time. hotter than hell. she is now living in maine, two kids and not married haha.

You sure they aren't your kids? haha