Cancer.

[poolmike]

So, my brother-in-law, Bill has been battling/recovering from cancer in his stomach and esophagus. The doctors found it one year ago, and blasted him chemo and radiation. They found that the cancer was gone, but had to remove his stomach anyway. Then back to a few months of chemo, which brings us up to now...

The doctors opened him up today to check a blockage in his intestine, just to find more cancer. They basically closed him up and gave him 6 months at best. 40 years old.

I just so f#$king unfair.

So, I am in desparate need of ideas. If by some miracle he is functional enough to go out and have a good time, where should I take him. I'm thinking of car museums and things like that. I'm not sure if he will be capable of anything at all, the pain will probably keep him in bed. But there is always hope.

[xEJ20x]

Germany....get him a ride on the 'Ring Taxi.

[poolmike]

Ha..That would be great! However, it kind of needs to be local.

[Njsurfrgurl]

pretty *hitty topic and kinda ironic...my mom called me today from texas...found out she has breast cancer


hoping for the best...good luck

[martang]

Wow I'm sorry to hear that I know how it feels wish I could give you some place good but I don't know

[lownslow95]

Wow, sorry to hear about that. I wish I knew some place good and local that you could take him, but I have nothing to offer.

[igo4bmx]

how about having a car meet just for him?

[lownslow95]

how about having a car meet just for him?

That actually sounds like a decent idea, but its up to him if he wants to go through with it or not.

[malloyboy1]

holy sh** that sucks. i have skin cancer cut out of me and that sucked i couldnt imagine whats hes goinf through.

[poolmike]

Yeh, it has been a rough year to say the least. Hopefully, I can get downtown tomorrow to see him. All we can hope for is a serious miracle right about now.

[turbo4g63]

i know all about family suffering from cancer, my grandfather died at the age of 51 from melanoma. He was one of the first five people to be treated w/ what they now use to cure it...but by the time they started that it was too late. He went through skin grafs, chemo...basically everything horrible that can happen before you die. Horrible. I'm sorry for your bad news.

[den9]

Ha..That would be great! However, it kind of needs to be local.

i was gonna say the ring too, if hes into cars, that is something that someone should see before they die, plus u can see all the car museums out there.

if out of the country isnt possible, the 12 hours of sebring was definetly a cool experience, still not local though.

theres nothing local to see that i know of except liberty bell, independence hall etc.

maybe ask him what his dream was that hes never done before.

i know id be sick to my stomached worried everyday if i knew i had 6 months to live. i know id be doing everything if i knew that, the ring, hawaii, california, times square on new years, yosemite park, the list wouldnt stop, id sell my house if i was single and blow all the money if i was gaurenteed not to make it.

hopefully he beats it, i heard several stories about ppl saying they had 6 months to live and wound up on their 2nd year

[Vypurr]

Honestly, as much as you feel that he would like to do something cool, I have a feeling that he simply wants to be with the people he feels for. He won't care what the hell you do, its the simple fact that he is doing it with you. He probably wouldn't want you to go out of your way to do anything extravagant. He may appreciate something that you plan for him, but people in his situation a lot of times simply don't want a be a burden on everyone else. All you gotta do is spend some time with him and make sure he knows that he isn't being a burden! Its that simple!

If I had to pick something to do, I would find a nice quiet place to go where you can simply talk and and remember the best times! Whether that would be at a car museum, a restaurant, or even just some place you used to go before.

Best of luck Mike, and best wishes for your friend.

[doug]

Mike,

I am a cancer survivor, and I know what he is going through. God bless him, and I hope he defies the doctors predictions.

[ThePrimerSuspect]

i remember 11 years ago on my birthday my older brother was diagnosed with lynphoma (sp). that was a pretty ****ed up time. i honestly would just want to spoil the **** outta myself and my family, if it were me. i would just buy everything i ever wanted on credit, anything my loved ones needed. but as far as knowing what to do for someone else, thats a tough one.

[dancemf666]

Sorry to hear.My wife works in oncology and its some sad ****.

[Tiny]

I'm really sorry to hear that Mike. If there is anything I can do please let me know.

[On Sale]

i know what your going through. it hit a little bit closer to me tho, my mom has cancer. lung,heart,brain and bone. Just found out in July. So im still trying to realize whats going on. Its so much to take in all at once.

I feel for ya tho, i do.

[poolmike]

Thanks for the support and ideas. This whole situation sucks. Cancer is a nasty problem. When I started looking into alternative cures, I was suprised to find that insurance companies don't pay for them. Interesting and very frustrating.

[Scapegoat]

laughter is the best remedy. Keep the spirits up and the body keeps fighting.

Sorry to hear :(

[zerioustt]

If he's into cars get the family together and bring over some good car movies/documentaries.

also my prayers are with you and your family.

[jdmwill]

first of all my heart and prayers go out to you and your family.my good friend levee's father past away this year after taking a fall in the bathroom.he had lost part of his leg from diabetes from his knee down.and was under constant dialysis.he new he didn't have much left so he ask for his son to take him to one last baseball game.remind you his vision was very poor at this time.so instead of taking him to a phillies game.we drove him up all the way to cooperstown ny for the baseball hall of fame.he talk about it everyday until he past away.the day died he just finish coming from the phillies game.i wasn't there that day with them but i wish did.i was told that he had the same look he had at cooperstown.

brother i may not have met yet but i still feel for you......


will

[GyrlSpeedRT]

Thanks for the support and ideas. This whole situation sucks. Cancer is a nasty problem. When I started looking into alternative cures, I was suprised to find that insurance companies don't pay for them. Interesting and very frustrating.
May God be with you and your family...

Right, insurance companies won't pay for it because it hasn't been "proven" to work says the FDA. Anything that the government can't make money off can't work. That's all I'll say on that because I WILL NOT turn this into a soapbox.

Has your relative checked out that Alternative Cancer Treatment Center?(I believe that's it) They can sometimes help in these situations. And like scapegoat said, laughter is the best medicine. I think we helped keep my cousin around longer just from being with him and having a good time. Family bounces off of each other so when you're upbeat, you give them that little bit of strength.

My suggestion is maybe having a favorite movie night. Get your favorite snacks and movies and just have a blast. That way he can chill out in his house, or yours and be as comfortable as he needs to. One last thing, and I know someone else said it but fight like a champ! Doctors tell you one thing, but they DO NOT have the final say.

[ikozhukhin]

I agree with everyone else about getting together and devoting some time to him. If he's in the physical shape to walk around then why not try to get a car meet for him. Even being remotely into cars he'll see how many people came out to support him and that should make him feel good for awhile.

On a side note, I am starting to understand what your going through. A few weeks ago my aunt was diagnosed with breast cancer and today she's going through a 12 hour surgery. My family is waiting on the response from the doctors and there's still about 6 hours left so its tough. I can't imagine going through this for as long as you have so my thoughts and prayers are with you and ur family as well as my own. If you do decide to go with the meet i'd be happy to help organize.

[scutzi128]

Man I feel for you I have had 4 people very close to me die from cancer..it is a horrible thing. What you do is not important just make sure you appreciate them for however long they hold on. Your family will be in my prayers. -Jake

[poolmike]

Thanks for all the concern. From what I gather, there is going to be one hell of a New Years party at my their place in Manayunk.

[den9]

how much does the alternative treatment cost?

[james_ls]

Wow, I've been watching this thread and haven't been able to think of anything to say.

I'm sorry...I really hope everything works out for the better.

Stay positive, and you'll be in my thoughts.

[HatchSurfer3]

Im sorry to have read that Mike. I think what people have been saying about just being with him and trying to keep him happy and fighting is the best thing. I'll definitely be praying for a miracle.

[poolmike]

how much does the alternative treatment cost?

I am looking into it for myself. It is very hard to convince people that alternative treatments are the way go. If I ever have cancer of any form, I will try alternative treatment. Cost might be an issue, but I will find a way around that.

[den9]

I am looking into it for myself. It is very hard to convince people that alternative treatments are the way go. If I ever have cancer of any form, I will try alternative treatment. Cost might be an issue, but I will find a way around that.
im sure ppl here can donate to help out :)

[endlessmyk]

Cancer is just a $hit hand to be dealt. I've lost two family members to it. My grandmother and my 16 year old cousin. They both said the best thing for them was just having the people they cared about around and not dwelling on the negative.